Titillating Your Partner

While having sex with your partner is exciting and generally pleasurable, have you asked yourself if you are giving them their personal pleasure and satisfaction? Or have you just been doing the act itself without paying attention to your partner’s pleasure points?

Erogenous zones are various areas in our body with heightened sensitivity which results in sexual response. These areas differ from person to person; however, most men and women share common erogenous zones.

There are two types of erogenous zones in the skin --- specific and non-specific. Specific areas include genitals, nipples, lips, and conjunctiva, which produce stronger sensations compared to normal haired skin since the rete ridges of the epithelium are well-formed and more nerves are closer to the external surface of the skin. Nonspecific areas, on the other hand, are basically areas that receive pleasurable forms of sensation which are perceived to be just exaggerated forms of tickle. These include the underarms, neck, and sides of the thorax.

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PLEASURE HER

Lips

The number one zone, packed with nerve endings and full of suggestiveness, the lips are just as important as other areas.

Try teasing small kisses that barely part your lips as well as long, lingering passionate snogs.

Clitoris

The highest concentration of nerve endings in the body.

Experiment above and below the hood with plenty of lubrication.

Vagina

This is particularly sensitive on the front wall (tummy side) where the hidden depths of the clitoris can be stimulated – but don’t miss the famous G-spot either.

Breasts

Men love touching women’s breasts, and luckily for us we love it too!

The sensitivity of the breasts varies hugely with hormonal fluctuations so always check what kind of touch your partner enjoys and follow their guide.

Nipples

Stroke them, tweak them, lick them - nipples are a very sensitive area of the body and the perfect place to start when getting her in the mood.

Be careful though, nipples are affected by hormones so start slowly and work out what she likes.

Throat/Neck

Gently kiss her throat, and lift her hair to caress the back of her neck.

The skin is particularly receptive to touch in these areas and this kind of loving attention feels especially intimate.

Belly button

This is more sensitive than you might imagine. Circle an innie and rub the base of an outie, either one will send vibrations direct to the genitals.

Hips

Use a light touch with the whole of your hand to firmly stroke and cup the hips – it will make her feel really feminine.

Inner Thighs

The key here is to always move in an upward direction, getting teasingly closer to her hotspots to build her anticipatory arousal.

Wrists and palms

The skin on the wrists and palms is really sensitive. Try rubbing in a light circular motion on the palm of the hand. Encourage her to open her hands to receive your touch.

Armpits

To know that your whole body is loved and cared for is what every woman wants and what better way to prove that than pampering her pits? Go very gently and softly, and she’ll feel tingly all over.

PLEASURE HIM

Penis

I’m sure it will come as no surprise that the penis is man’s number one hotspot, but don’t just settle for a stimulation style that works.

Take time to explore different types of touch to give him something a little different.

Scrotum

Many men love to have their scrotum stroked and it can be really pleasurable if done gently.

This is definitely an area where you should start gently and check your partner isn’t wincing with terror though.

Perineum

This is the line of skin between the anus and the scrotum, which is rich with nerve endings and super-sensitive.

Gentle pressure on this area can stimulate the hidden prostate with uhmmm…explosive results.

Inner Thighs

The skin on the inner thighs is super soft and sensitive. Use upward strokes to teasingly build his anticipation before hitting his top spot.

Stomach

From the belly button down work at a snail's pace to build anticipation and arousal.

Neck

For him, use long, light fingertip strokes just below the Adams Apple to indirectly stimulate the thyroid gland. In Chinese medicine, the thyroid is directly linked to your sex organs.

Chest

When you stroke and caress a man’s chest, not only are you sending pleasurable sensations through his skin but you’re also affirming his manhood.

If he works out, show your appreciation by paying particular attention to his pecs.

Nipples

Men’s nipples have just as many nerve endings and are just as erogenous as women’s so don’t be frightened to play with them!

Start gently at first and as he gets more aroused take a firmer touch.

Fingers/Toes

The toes and fingers are very sensitive to touching and sucking. Try seductively sucking his fingers or big toe to get his imagination going.

BOTH

Lower belly

The lower part of the belly is known by acupressurists as the Gate of Origin.

Gentle pressure on this hot spot - three or four finger widths down from the navel - will open sexual energy.

Be careful though as it may also make them want to pee!

Inside of arm

This baby-soft skin that rarely gets any attention is a popular erogenous zone for many men and women.

Rake it with your fingertips with the lightest touch to get your lover really excited.

Scalp

A great deal of the human nervous system is located in the head.

A good scalp massage will gently ease away the tensions of the day leaving the head clear to think of other things.

Start with slow, soft moves and increase intensity as you go on, using your nails lightly.

Go ahead and experiment with your better half.  After all, the pleasures of sex should not be guilt-laden.  Pleasuring your partner is enjoying the greater half of sex.